We’ve all had moments where our feelings took over logic.
Where we felt something so strongly that it had to be true.
Only to later realize… it wasn’t.
This is what’s known as Emotional Reasoning — or what I like to call The Emotion Commotion.
It’s when we believe something is true simply because it feels true.
Feelings Aren’t Facts
Emotions are powerful — and they’re meant to be. They alert us to danger, help us connect with others, and give life its color. But when we rely on our feelings too much to make decisions, we can end up creating problems that never really existed.
Have you ever thought:
“I feel like I’m being lied to.”
“I feel like something’s wrong.”
“I feel like they’re using me.”
And then… later discovered none of it was true?
That’s The Emotion Commotion at work.
Example: The Misunderstood Text
Let’s say your partner sends a short text:
“Can’t talk now. Busy.”
Immediately, your mind races:
“They’re mad at me.”
“They’re hiding something.”
“Something’s wrong.”
You replay every conversation from the past week, every tone of voice, every emoji. Before you know it, your stomach is in knots, your mood is gone, and you’re ready for an argument that hasn’t even happened.
Hours later, your partner calls, exhausted from a long meeting, completely unaware that you’ve spent the day spiraling.
Sound familiar?
That’s how powerful our emotions can be — if we let them take over.
How to Get Control Back
The key is to pause before reacting.
Give your feelings space to exist, but don’t let them drive the car.
Here are a few quick strategies:
- Breathe before you believe. Give yourself time to calm your body so your brain can catch up.
- Check for evidence. Ask, “What facts do I have that support this thought? What facts do I have that don’t?”
- Wait for clarity. Don’t make decisions in emotional storms — they usually pass faster than you think.
Remember: feelings are temporary. Facts are forever.
Why This Matters
Letting emotions take over can lead to unnecessary arguments, damaged relationships, and painful regrets. But learning to slow down, think clearly, and wait for facts keeps you grounded.
You can still honor your emotions — they’re valid and real — but don’t let them dictate your reality.
That’s how you build Resilience.
That’s how you strengthen Confidence.
And that’s what makes you Beautiful.
Reflection Prompt
Think about a time when your emotions convinced you of something that turned out to be false.
What could you do differently next time to check for the facts first?
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